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"Because lying to your kids about sex helps nobody. Telling them that sex is “only between mommies and daddies” is a lie that leads to confused, hormone charged teenagers. Telling them that sex is “only something that happens when two people love each other very much” is a lie that causes hormone charged teenagers to confuse “love” with “lust,” or “obsession.” It leads to leaps of logic like, “If I have sex with them, we must be in love.” Or worse- “If I love them, I have to have sex with them.” And how many teenage tragedies are based on that misconception?"

— Lea Grover, "We Don’t Play With Our Vulvas At The Table" (via themindislimitless)

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holisticsexualhealth:

You and your partner can have a satisfying sexual relationship in spite of your chronic pain.


By Mayo Clinic Staff

People need physical and emotional intimacy almost as much as they need food and shelter. Sexuality helps fulfill the vital need for human connection. It’s a natural…

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Everyone, my sweet sweet lover is in A LOT of pain and it doesn’t seem any of our accessible remedies are going to work. I am beyond worried and at a loss of what to do next. There is a lot of shame in asking for help. So please know we wouldn’t be doing this if we had another way out. Knowing we have had the support of our community far and wide during this process has been a truly beautiful experience. Thank you everyone for all of the love and support!
I know there is so much going on in the world and so much need. If you can and you’re giving with an open heart, we’d really be so appreciate of any help you can give. 
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oh my goddess this is so incredibly sweet. I am fully blown away by the deep love and support that is happening. we are almost half way there! I am so excited to no longer be in pain! 

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stingyqueens:

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tangledupinlace:

Everyone, my sweet sweet lover is in A LOT of pain and it doesn’t seem any of our accessible remedies are going to work. I am beyond worried and at a loss of what to do next. There is a lot of shame in asking for help. So please know we wouldn’t be doing this if we had another way out. Knowing we have had the support of our community far and wide during this process has been a truly beautiful experience. Thank you everyone for all of the love and support!

I know there is so much going on in the world and so much need. If you can and you’re giving with an open heart, we’d really be so appreciate of any help you can give. 

THIS IS THE LINK TO OUR GO FUND ME PAGE

thank you again <3 <3

guh I H8 that we have to do this and I’m having a lot of class shame but I’m also in so much pain and just want this fixed so whatever! I got some shotty dental care a few years ago and its left me a with a lot of dental problems. Our natural remedies are no longer working.  Please donate if you can, or signal boost. Thank you so much loves. I really appreciate it. 

I’ve been following these two folks for a good long while. I have never met them and probably never will, but I love seeing posts from either of them pop up on my dashboard — they are both insightful, sweet, powerful, delightful and they fill me with hope and inspiration that has more than once carried me through a bad day.

Consider giving a little, if you can.

oh my goddess this is so incredibly sweet. I am fully blown away by the deep love and support that is happening. we are almost half way there! I am so excited to no longer be in pain! 

If you are a Heavy Petter who wants to help Majestic get some vital preventative dental care please consider donating! 

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Do You Love Someone With Depression?

If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.

Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.

1. Help them keep clutter at bay.

When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)

2. Fix them a healthy meal.

Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing her to go deeper into her depression. Help your loved one keep her body healthy, and her mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.

3.Get them outside.

 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.

4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.

If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.

5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.

Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.

6. Hug them.

Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.

7. Laugh with them.

Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of herself. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.

Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.

9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.

A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”

10.Remind them why you love them.

Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.

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Great article and such a deliciously awesome subject.

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Qualities of a Good Friend

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1. Respectful; is interested in your point of view

2. Caring and considerate

3. Understanding and supportive

4. Encouraging and affirming

5. Doesn’t belittle or put your down

6. Co-operative, adaptive and flexible

7. Willing to negotiate and compromise

8. Able to discuss disagreements openly; values honest communication

9.  Can admit when they are wrong, and are willing to apologise

10. Wants the best for you; isn’t threatened by your achievements and successes.

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Rising Up Without Burning Out

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